How Do You Know Your Spiritual Teacher/Healer Is Ethical?
There’s good and bad people in every profession, and some sectors of the helping community have associations behind them that require accountability.
Not so with spiritual healers and teachers.
And there’s plenty of them out there that show no accountability for their behaviour, even if what they teach and offer is really worthwhile.
In fact I have had to have healing myself to deal with the crap I’ve endured from certain teachers. That’s the catch 22 about it. You want what they have to offer, you want the knowledge and healing, but it’s quite clear that they are self-will run riot.
So how do you know your spiritual teacher is ethical?
Something I tell all my clients when they ask me what they should get healed, or get healed next, is to go by what you feel. Drop down into your heart or your gut rather than analyse it from your head. This is also true for working out whether the person offering the healing/teaching has a moral compass and it’s pointing in the right direction.
If a teacher makes you feel awful, is arrogant and egotistical, or treats you like a child, there is no way that what they have to offer is important enough to endure their treatment. If your bullcrap detector goes off, trust it, just because they have a level of credibility in the community does not mean you have to put up with dodgy treatment. And don’t let them tell you it’s your stuff. It always helps if your healer is on a path of healing themselves.
You may ask why someone would put up with bad treatment? Well the information might be what you want but you don’t realise in your open student or client state that you are being walked over, because perhaps it reminds you of what you had to put up with in your childhood, or you just don’t have strong enough self esteem to say No, or maybe you feel you’re going to miss out on the knowledge. The information is enticing.
The other thing to ask yourself too is how accessible is that person. Not so you can take them hostage with your questions and realisations, but is there a fortress around them so there’s no way you can access them outside of your session? Or do you get monosyllabic replies to your queries?
There is one teacher in my life who really brought this issue into the light for me, Mark Silver, from http://www.heartofbusiness.com His integrity, warmth and accountability really helped me to see that the end does not justify the means and helping is an act of love.
So look for a teacher/healer who embraces you on your journey, they don’t have to be perfect, but you will be able to tell that they have their ego in check.