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I was browsing the internet and came across a site and read a paragraph that sent shivers down my spine. The paragraph by Patricia L Walsh read:

Our past life selves are not only characters in past dramas, but they also live within us today as ‘sub-personalities’. Their ‘unfinished business’ can make itself known through irrational fears, phobias or patterns that are not easily changed. We feel their emotions; manifest their talents; think their thoughts; are limited by their fears and perpetuate their quandaries often without consciously knowing we are doing so. These are the karmic complexes that are carried forward and re-imprinted in each lifetime essentially causing us to ‘pick up’ where we left off.

Well that small paragraph took me to a whole new deeper level of understanding. I know for sure that I came into this life with a whole lot more neuroses than I needed to. It was as if I hit the ground running with baggage. A lot more fears and phobias than was comfortable.

I felt the truth in this explanation that my unfinished business was playing out as sub-personalities. Of course we have genetics factoring in, and also our ancestral memories, but knowing that our past lives are still playing out actively in our subconscious is another level of power in being able to heal the past.

That I can deal with.

One of the key factors in healing this unfinished business from the past is to find out whether you have learnt the lesson. Intention is everything with healing. So set your intention to find out what the lesson is. You may like to sit quietly and see what comes up. Perhaps use a pendulum asking yourself questions. Or muscle test. You can use soul healing or theta healing or guided meditation to do this as well.

Often times karma is carried through lives when it’s finished already and we have paid our dues. At a soul level we hang onto our karmic lessons in case they come up again and we are unprepared for them. But we don’t need to do this anymore. We can clear this energy and let it go.

Some people have an abortion and move on with their lives.

Other people have an abortion and it causes such a huge healing crisis, be it conscious or shoved into their unconscious. The only problem with that is it will express itself in a number of ways. Via depression, anxiety, post traumatic stress disorder and a host of other physical and emotional problems.

Such was the case for me after I had an abortion 7 years ago.

Abortion for me solved one problem. But created a whole nother can of worms. But I suspect there’s worms were there anyway and were just more visible now that I had a reason to delve deeper, deeper than I had ever gone before.

I spent 7 years on a journey to work through the after-effects of abortion. I wanted to just get on with my life, just move on but parts of my psyche felt differently. Nothing in my life had affected me as much, or as deeply, as the recovery after the abortion but it was a mystery to me why.

I had tried so many different kinds of therapies and still I had symptoms. I had depression, anxiety, I tended to feel anti social, I had guilt and a sense of self punishment.

It didn’t matter what my head said, or that I understood my reasoning behind it, at a deeper level I was suffering and for the life of me I couldn’t understand why. Why it lingered. Why I had flashbacks and emotionally relived that short procedure.

After being in denial and on antidepressants for a few years, I decided to tackle it anyway I could. I tried EFT, I had mediumship readings, I had therapy, I read quite a few books, I had a huge amount of understanding, on all levels.

Finally the biggest relief came when I understood and experienced healing at a Soul Level. By looking at this terminated child as a Soul and not just a body, I realised that I had a Soul Group history with this Soul, and my connection with this Soul took me on such a journey of self discovery, one that I don’t feel I would have taken without it.

In fact that journey is how I found my vocation to be a psychic/medium/healer. I felt that soul had to come that far into my body and life in order for me to “get it”. Talk about a huge tap on the shoulder.

As a mother it went against all of my natural instincts to do the emotional and spiritual works to “let this soul go” and trust that this wee spirit wasn’t wafting out there all alone.

But energetically and emotionally hanging onto the spirit of this unborn child is what was keeping me stuck as well.

In fact I looked like I was still pregnant years after I had been through the termination.

Are you still hanging onto the spirit of your unborn child? If you’re not willing to let go then chances are that energy is still affecting you.

If you are suffering after an abortion, one that happened weeks ago, or decades ago, then it may be time for you to take this spiritual journey of healing.

It’s a grief that’s often seen as taboo. It’s a double edged sword, you chose to have an abortion so why cry over a choice you made? And having an abortion wasn’t always so easily to get and it still is cloaked in controversy even though millions of them are performed each year. So there’s a sense of relief as well that we are “allowed” to have one so easily.

Perhaps your Soul is calling you to do the deeper work, one that takes you to a Soul level of understanding. And until you do, then the psychological and emotional pain will still linger.

I’m a big fan of David Wolfe at the moment, and he’s done alot to popularise the concept of Earthing as a health benefit. I just recently watched a video from the Longevity conference and David talks about the concept for about an hour and brings Clinton Ober to the stage to discuss it further. I had already purchased Clinton’s book about Earthing.

I was so taken with it that I decided to make my own earthing device which was so much cheaper and easier than buying one of the packages that David sells.

I just got a metal rod, attached some wire to it and stuck it in the ground, and ran that wire into my house and attached it to an antistatic band that i wear around my wrist. I wore it all day yesterday and found it had a hugely calming effect on me, it quietens the left brain of all the mind chatter. And I slept last night with it attached and my usual pains from being on the computer all day were non-existant.

Ideally we can just all go outside and walk barefoot on the ground for at least 15 mins three times a day. But as its winter here and for those people with a sedentary lifestyle, having an earthing wire attached is the next best thing.

The products you can buy now are numerous, sleeping pads, sleeping bags, products for in your vehicle etc.

Fundamentally David believes that the shoe is the most dangerous thing we ever invented. Keeping us away from the natural healing energy of mother earth.

The benefits of earthing are way too numerous to mention here. There have been documented cases for years of the results achieved.

As we all know indiginous cultures have known this for centuries, the healing power of the Earth, a huge battery that neutralises so many energies that we in the western world pick up in our day.

Ive been listening to some wonderful speakers on Suzanne Falter-Barns Spiritual Marketing telesummit.

I always like to pass on great information and one of the speakers, Darius Barazandeh, was awesome. He did a wee process that took only a few minutes and it felt like it was a huge piece of a healing process for me. What a gift!!!

Here’s the gist of what he was saying.

The Universe has an order to it.

Everything that has happened to you has happened for a reason. There’s a higher order to our lives.

We are way more than our conscious minds are aware of.

In our lives we pay people to take chaos and turn it into order.

Pain is not due to what happened, but its due to our estimate of it being out of alignment with our soul values.

The process he took us through was as follows:

Take a memory of something in your life that has pain. Perhaps not a horribly deep pain at this stage. Now think positively about it. Now think about your response and how you feel in your body.

Think about what you value in life: ie, your family, your kids, your friends, your work.

Now take that negative memory and align it with your values.

What did it teach you?
How has it made you stronger?
How has it made you more aware?
Would you have the same values had this not happened?
Would you be as open?
Woud you be as heartfelt?
How did that situation prepare you for a greater role in life? On the planet?
Look at this memory as if it was 10 years on and see the order to it.
How do you feel now?
What do you feel in your heart?

When I did this exercise I took the memory of having an abortion 7.5 years ago. My life was hellish because of it. So much self punishment, guilt, depression.

But…..

When I did this exercise, the relief I felt when seeing this in a positive light was like nothing I’ve felt around this painful bunch of memories.
Its taken me on such a journey. I am such a different person now than I was before it. The soul journey I have been on and the places and information and new level of awareness has been profoundly life changing. I wouldn’t be doing readings now if it wasn’t for that. It gave me my vocation.
Its all too easy to be stuck in knowing a situation has caused you pain, I think abortion, its just normal for me to go to guilt etc. But seeing it in the right divine order and through a positive filter has really altered my feelings.
Thanks Darius, the gift of healing can come with so much surprise and wonderment.

My Uncle passed away a few weeks ago. And his wife, my Aunt, 3 months ago. My Aunt and I corresponded and shared an interest in genealogy. My generation wasn’t loaded with people. Nor the one before me. But the generations before that were massive. Lots of rellies.

So my cousin has handed me on all of my Aunts genealogy folders. I received them earlier this week and was transfixed looking through the detail at what she had collected. Way more than I knew she had.

My Aunt was my father’s sister. One parent died before I was born and the other only a few years later. My father was in his early 20s when this happened.

My mother’s side had little to do with one another. So for me I felt like I didn’t have alot of family around me. It was always really weird to hear something about anyone in the family. I was just not used to being *in* a family in that respect.

It was extremely emotional for me to see pictures of my grandmother and great grandparents and my great great grandparents in the box of goodies I received from my Aunt. Im sensitive anyway, but there was this huge pull in my blood and bones. I’m sure alot of you know what I’m talking about, that’s why genealogy is so popular.

My grandmother’s side came from Italy. I always felt this side calling to me. I never knew why. I felt the Irish ancestry calling me too and the American. Less so the Scottish which is actually closer by a generation, and even less so the English.

No one knew when I first stated researching where my great great grandfather came from in Italy but I just knew in my bones it was northern Italy. I could just feel it.

Sure Im a psychic/medium but this is a different feeling to anything I get for my clients. I dont receive information that deep for my clients, like it was in my dna.

So I asked on facebook if people thought we had a cellular memory of our ancestors. All were in agreement, most people said they felt an affinity with a place or country.

But what about an affinity with a person. Take my grandmother who I had never met. I have always felt an affinity with her. She died when mum was pregnant with me.

And I’ve always felt an affinity with my Mothers Mother’s Mother. We actually share the same middle name (not that I knew that until I started genealogy) and we shared the same birthday. 101 years later.

So it got me to thinking, what about if some of the feelings I have, are actually my ancestors feelings?

I found a letter from my Aunt addressed to me, which she never sent to me, but sent a watered down version. When there’s no stories handed down about people then anything anyone says about a family member is like gold. She told me about how my Grandmother must have kicked my Grandfather out in the 1950s and he went to court to petition to get his conjugal rights reinstated. I had to find out what that meant. For a few days I felt like I was reliving her emotional life, what she must have gone though. And I asked myself why? Why are these feelings and thoughts coming to me.

That night I had a dream that someone was lifing a whole person out of me. And I woke up feeling more like myself.

Sure, I probably was tuning in mediumship wise. But it didn’t feel all of that. I didn’t feel I was tapping into the collective consciousness and having a typically feminine experience the world over.

I felt this in my bones. This story felt like something I had known and in part relived.

So it got me thinking and doing a bit of research. Does it not stand to reason that because our dna is made up of each one of our parents, and in turn theirs before them, that not only do we look like our ancestors, and have health issues passed down in our genes. that we might also have a dna memory of the lives they lived?

Because there was little contact and not alot of talking in my family, I just wasn’t handed down stories. So how can I feel the past now in my bones? When it wasn’t my life lived. But I seem to know some of what went on?

It doesn’t feel like a voyeuristic look into their lives, it feels more than wanting to make sense of their lives so I can make sense of mine. It feels like I’m having memories.

What do you think?

Are you always standing trial on the inside?

There’s the judge, the jury, the prosecution, and your defence is either weak or non existant?

I had an ephiphany last night. I’m taking the May Challenge in the One Command email group. To go up into theta and focus on what’s right with me, not what’s wrong. We can always look for what’s wrong, we’re doing it unconsciously all the time. And we find evidence in our lives to prove it.

What I came to realise is that I have this inner court room. The judge and jury. Every situation, person, MYSELF THE MOST, is up in front of the judge every moment of every day, being accused of doing wrong.

Every moment the prosecution wins and theres a voice of punishment. Of course so subtle now that I don’t even hear bit but boy do I feel it.

I realised I can’t just retire the jury and say it’s a mistrial because another court room is established in a second. And the judge loves her job and the esteem and authority and doesn’t want to retire. I realised that the voice of the defence was really quiet. The voice of defence for myself and for all the people I judge.

It’s hugely enlightening to look through the eyes of the defence in every moment than the prosecution. The defence is heart centred. The defence is humane. The defence is freeing, allowing, isn’t perfectionistic.

You try it. Who stands on trial for you? What are you accusing them of that you retry them again and again on the inside. With only a guilty verdict allowed.

Who is getting off scott free and you only wish they could suffer a little then you would be happy. Who should admit their guilt?

Defend them, what have they done right? What human part of them might have acted the way they did? Defend them. Say it out loud or write it down. Really get into the energy of the defence.

Can you feel how freeing that is?

I am a highly sensitive person and it’s been the bane of my life. Sure it has it’s upside, I use it in my job as a psychic, but on the whole the way my brain is wired to take in stimuli can be very overwhelming.

Highly Sensitive Person’s (HSP) brains are wired differenty. Its inherited. There are alot of characteristics to it ie:

Feel anxious and overwhelmed in crowds.

Noise and smells have a powerful effect. Loud or constant noise.

Really aware of other peoples moods.

Bright lights affect you.

Frazzled when too much to do in a short space of time.

Startle easily

Violent movies are very intense.

Music is very moving.

Easily overwhelmed.

Every highly sensitive person I know has tried a myriad of things to help themselves. We require alot of Alone time to recharge. Some days it feels like we dont have any skin, as if the world has encroached too far into us.

I’m also sensitive at night, I wear an eye mask and earplugs to stop the sensory input. Otherwise is someone walks past my bedroom at night I feel it on my skin, like a wave of energy washing over me, enough to wake me up.

Going into Malls I have found that if I listen to an ipod with quiet music on then it cuts out alot of the outside stimuation.

Ultra violet lights in supermarkets are terrible, they make me feel like the ground is moving.

Something I also work quite alot on is wherever I go I consciously close down my navel chakra, i just see it as an eye closing. I also visualise a cloak around wrap it around me. Shutting myself down is something I dont feel I’ve mastered at all.

As an empath its very easy for me to be *in* someone else’s experience. In fact I often see life from someone else’s point of view and not my own because I see their point of view and their reasoning so easily. But I have to keep reminding myself that I end up at a standstill in my life doing this all the time because I lose my own perspective.

Something I often do is bring myself back to myself. It takes a split second for me to zoom into someone elses space with my consciousness, and I have to practice not doing this. It’s very easy to take on other peoples depression or anxiousness doing this. And most of the time I dont know its not my feelings because I am in someeone elses consciousness so easily. One way to check for this is to work out what you were feeling before you came into contact with someone else and to see if you had a drastic change of mood with being in contact with them. Then walk away and break engaging with them for a few minutes and see if your mood changes. Chances are if it does then youre picking up their underlying mood.

HSP feel like they are an emotional sponge, soaking up whatever is around them. And at the same time feel like a colander with their own energy. It doesn’t take much to drain us at all.

I have to withdraw alot to recharge myself, and there is a tendancy to isolate doing this, because it takes so much energy to be engaged with people.

So are you an energetic sponge?

I love Ghost Whisperer and Medium, the TV shows. It’s brought Mediumship into the mainstream and demystified alot about what a Medium can do. It’s brought Spiritualism out of the early 1900s with images of ectoplasm gushing forth out of a Trance Mediums mouth into the modern age.

But……

I ain’t no Melinda Gordon.

I don’t carry on wonderfully clear conversations with someone who has passed over or is earthbound like I’m talking to a friend in the room or someone on the end of a phone line.

Not so simple.

Spirit communicates via an energetic vibration. I feel like its a chunk of energy like a wave, comes in then leaves, comes in then leaves. And I have to interpret the energy via my senses.

Sometimes if the person who has passed on is a talker, I will hear them talking, or they give me a feeling, or an image.

I learned a long time ago that I just have to pass on the impressions I get and try not to interpret them.

First and foremost Mediumship is to prove evidence of survival of Spirit.

The number one question most people want to know is if their loved one’s ok. I don’t think Melinda Gordon has helped people in that respect trust that their loved ones are OK,having had to cross over so many spirits on her show.

I believe if you have the hit to have a mediumship reading then your loved one is guiding you in that direction too.

It takes alot of energy for Spirit to lower their vibration to come through, and for the Medium to raise their vibration to talk to Spirit. So that shows you how much your loved ones want to communicate with you.

And yes, they can hear you when you talk to them, its not like they have to be in the same room to hear you, but they know whats going on in your life.

Most Mediums I know practice Mental Mediumship. Where Spirit connects with them telepathically, rather than taking over their whole body to deliver a message. Its only on rare occasions that I will sense a Spirit around me. I learned a long time ago not to have Spirit hanging out in my house because it can feel like Grand Central Station and mess around with my energy.

Blow waking up like Melinda to Spirits hanging out in her house. I do get interference with my electricals though, especially my laptop when Im doing mediumship readings online. I have to tell Spirit to back their energy off a bit.

Alot of sensitive people experience Spirit more like Alison DuBois in Medium. Dreaming of Spirit. I have that too but mostly from people who have passed over that I know.

Ive only once seen a Spirit in broad daylight. Like he was flesh, he was dressed in Victorian dress, and I had asked to see Spirit. I also had to have one of my houses cleansed by some Ghostbusters because I had noises at night wooshing around my bedroom, sounding like fingernails on the blackboard. That was pretty scary and from that point on I knew not to dabble in the spirit world, but have a very healthy respect.

I’m currently writing a Mediumship 101 correspondence course so look out for that.

Last night I read this article that prompted alot of thought in me. Too bad it was at 4am lol. It got me to think, on your journey do you see yourself as flawed and needing to heal the wounded parts as best you can, or do you see yourself as whole but cant quite see through your misperception?

A lighthouse image came to mind. Where the light is focused on one area at a time, but while focused on that one area, the other areas are in darkness.

It doesn’t mean they aren’t there because you can’t see them, does it?

So what if we are whole, but we just can’t see all of us because our focus isn’t on all of us.

So all the characteristics that you wish you were, but can’t see, you are those characateristics, you just haven’t shone your light and focus on those parts yet.

I don’t believe we can see characteristics, good and bad, in others, if they aren’t a part of ourselves. After all, life is all projection. What we see out there is what is in us.

So are you your own Lighthouse Keeper? Where are you shining your light? On the parts you know you have and you keep wishing they weren’t there?

How about moving that light around a bit and shining it on the other areas you haven’t acknowledged are there yet?

I’ve grappled with the impact of past lives for a while until I came to Soul Realignment. I’m not disputing that they exist, but more so that they still affect us.

I was always under the impression that whatever we brought through from a Past Life would be recreated in this lifetime and we can stay in this lifetime to heal it.

But not so.

It’s mindboggling though to think of all the blocks we could have brought through from Past Lives. The further we go back in time I think the harder life would have been, harder surviving conditions. But I suppose thats just from a human perspective, from a Soul perspective we have alot more choice about what we were born into, and the lessons we were learning.

Often times if you have an area of your life that you’ve tried alot of modalities to heal, it will probably have its origins in a Past Life.

As we aren’t victims, there will be reasons at a Soul level that we have chosen to not let those experiences and pain go, perhaps we made a contract or vow to someone, or God, and we feel we still owe it to that Soul to keep our side of the debt going. Perhaps we feel if we let it go it will come back to bite us on the butt. Perhaps we haven’t paid off our karma yet.

Often alot of phobias will have their origins in Past Lives, the sticky ones that modalities like EFT dont clear.

As we incarnate with our Soul Group, it stands to reason that the people around us who are dear to us, will trigger up unresolved memories from these lives.

In Soul Realignment we don’t go back to Past Lives for information sake, just to be nosey, we go back to heal those blocks and restrictions that are still impacting us today. Why we can’t seem to move forward in a certain area of our lives, why some people just irritate us and we can’t work out why. Why it’s hard to let some people go. Why we have birthmarks in certain places.

Looking into the Akashic Records is the way I review these Past Lives and what is needed for your next layer of healing.