Kate Strong's Blog

One of the main reasons women in particular contact psychics about relationships is because distance in a relationship creates anxiety.

It’s not so easy to quell that anxiety after you’ve just been broken up with. In those initial days after a relationship break up you run the gamut of emotions. Shock, denial, anger, sadness, emptiness, loss.

At an emotional level it’s really easy to understand why you’re feeling that way, but at a spiritual level you’re still energetically connected very strongly with your ex. Those energetic connections we form with everyone we come in contact with, or even think about. But if you’re in an intimate relationship with someone that energy is very strong.

So here’s a list of what not to do:

Don’t be stalking him.
Don’t visit him.
Don’t send him a barrage of emails and texts.
Don’t contact him, despite the fact your whole body is screaming out for him.

That’s a no-no.

If you can try and refrain from spending all your time obsessing about him, talking to all your girlfriends about him, and ringing psychics about him. I know that’s hard initially but its an ideal. Work up to it.

But…

Get out of his psychic energy.

And here’s the key why.

You want him to miss you.

You want him to notice a change in energy without you. If you’re in his psychic space he’s not going to miss you. By psychic space I mean that every thought emotion and feeling you have while still being very energetically connected to him, is going to have some sort of impact on his energy.

So even though it feels counterintuitive to what you want to do.

Don’t whatever you do contact him.

So that initial week or two after the breakup you want him to miss you.

9 times out of 10 he will contact you.

This of course all hinges on whether he’s worth getting back. If he’s a drop kick thank your lucky stars hes out of your life and keep on walking.

I just read this awesome book and I always like to pass on information when I am impressed. It’s called The Secret Laws of Attraction – The Effortless Way to Get the Relationship You Want by Talane Miedaner.

Basically the premise is that we all have needs. And if we aren’t meeting them then we are putting out an energy of neediness and we are mostly put off by people who are too needy. It’s repelling. So if we make an effort to meet our needs in various ways, then we are more likely then to attract what it is we want in our lives.

When you meet a need, it goes away. So you aren’t vibrating at that needy level. It’s when we dont meet a need that we end up making choices that may not be the best for us.

Often alot of us are ashamed to have needs. We don’t like to ask others for help. We think this appears needy when in fact asking for help to meet your needs appears confident. It’s when we try to meet our needs underhanded that creates tension.

Here’s the quiz that will select out your top 4 relationship needs that you want to try and meet.

Relationship Need Quiz

I wanted to share a story from my life that embodied for me that the Universe has my back.

15 months ago my ex partner of 10 years told me out of the blue he was leaving me. Of course now I see that was all perfect but at the time I was devastated, he was the love of my life, but obviously I wasn’t for him.

Anyway, after having been in some kind of relationship for 25 years I was in shock about how I was going to survive on my own. I had spent most of my time raising our kids, and supporting my partners in their jobs. The way I had been raised. Make someone else’s life run smoother. Sounds simplistic but whatever I wanted to do professionally always felt like some little hobby I had.

He didn’t leave for 3 months which was hugely challenging, but not long before he left, an old friend out of the blue emailed me to tell me he had won first division in lotto, 1 million dollars, and wanted to show his gratitude to me for how he felt I had been a friend to him over the years, and asked me to let him know whatever I wanted.

Needless to say I cried for days about that. He saw me right to get up on my feet and was there just when I needed some kind of stability.

Whenever I’m scared and worried about how I’m going to manage, I remember how Rob was there when I needed an anchor.

Thanks Rob Browning

How have you experienced the Universe having your back?

Ive just been listening to Wayne Dyers audio cd about The Power of Intention. He has some good points that have totally changed the way I see Free Will.

He says : “At any moment in time all spirit is concentrated at the point where you focus your own intention.

Therefore you can consolidate all creative energy at a given moment in time, this is called your Free Will at work.”

He says that Universal mind is in your divine mind AND your free will.

Isnt this what some of us call Co-creation?

This got me thinking.

I saw Free Will as this naughty child who was defying her parent, like a brat having a tantrum – I WANNA DO IT MY WAY!!!!

And after so long doing it on your own you give in and say to your parents, ok, I’ve had enough, let’s do it your way, as if I’ve been bad for trying it out my way, and it didn’t work.

I saw my part as somehow being misguided. Sure I want what I want, but if I could only let go and go with the flow about what the Universe wants for me, then I will be happy, on track, life would be easier.

I never saw my free will as being a part of the divine universe. It felt like if I applied my free will then I was treading water or swimming upstream and needed to let go so I could flow down stream.

In some teachings we are lead to believe that the Universe doesn’t have any impact on our free will, but unless you are totally egotistical or travelling a journey of darkness, how can it not?

Call it a paradox, or a dichotemy, but the two can co-exist simultaneously, finally I get what co-creating means.

It’s not all my way and being egotistical and hard work, or all the Universe’s way where I feel like a rudderless ship blown wherever tides and winds take me.

Just call me Captain, setting sail where I want to go but knowing I can use the winds to my advantage!!