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I’m a big fan of David Wolfe at the moment, and he’s done alot to popularise the concept of Earthing as a health benefit. I just recently watched a video from the Longevity conference and David talks about the concept for about an hour and brings Clinton Ober to the stage to discuss it further. I had already purchased Clinton’s book about Earthing.

I was so taken with it that I decided to make my own earthing device which was so much cheaper and easier than buying one of the packages that David sells.

I just got a metal rod, attached some wire to it and stuck it in the ground, and ran that wire into my house and attached it to an antistatic band that i wear around my wrist. I wore it all day yesterday and found it had a hugely calming effect on me, it quietens the left brain of all the mind chatter. And I slept last night with it attached and my usual pains from being on the computer all day were non-existant.

Ideally we can just all go outside and walk barefoot on the ground for at least 15 mins three times a day. But as its winter here and for those people with a sedentary lifestyle, having an earthing wire attached is the next best thing.

The products you can buy now are numerous, sleeping pads, sleeping bags, products for in your vehicle etc.

Fundamentally David believes that the shoe is the most dangerous thing we ever invented. Keeping us away from the natural healing energy of mother earth.

The benefits of earthing are way too numerous to mention here. There have been documented cases for years of the results achieved.

As we all know indiginous cultures have known this for centuries, the healing power of the Earth, a huge battery that neutralises so many energies that we in the western world pick up in our day.

I just read this awesome book and I always like to pass on information when I am impressed. It’s called The Secret Laws of Attraction – The Effortless Way to Get the Relationship You Want by Talane Miedaner.

Basically the premise is that we all have needs. And if we aren’t meeting them then we are putting out an energy of neediness and we are mostly put off by people who are too needy. It’s repelling. So if we make an effort to meet our needs in various ways, then we are more likely then to attract what it is we want in our lives.

When you meet a need, it goes away. So you aren’t vibrating at that needy level. It’s when we dont meet a need that we end up making choices that may not be the best for us.

Often alot of us are ashamed to have needs. We don’t like to ask others for help. We think this appears needy when in fact asking for help to meet your needs appears confident. It’s when we try to meet our needs underhanded that creates tension.

Here’s the quiz that will select out your top 4 relationship needs that you want to try and meet.

Relationship Need Quiz

A collegue of mine has written an awesome psychic development course. I was priviledged to read it before its release. Personally I think Anna is one of the top psychic/healers that I know.

Check out the link. Psychic Awakening Course

Is this you?

When youre in a relationship you love to fuss.

You love to make him the centre of your world.

You love cooking his favourite meals, you love bringing him cups of tea, making sure that the movie you watch is his choice because you love pleasing him.

You love it when he drives when you go out. He has the final decision on what furniture to buy, what audio visual equipment you get, and you debrief his job at the end of the day. He picks the destination for a date, whatever he decides is ok because making him happy pleases you.

You love to defer to him.

You love putting his needs before your own, you love making him feel special.

Surely he loves you making him the centre of attention, afterall it feels great to have someone caring that deeply for you?

Here’s the thing.

Unless you’re really really wanting to do those things and its coming from a genuine place and not some passive need for attention and love and approval, then he’s going to know you’re not putting yourself first.

And when you put yourself last then in his eyes you value yourself less than you value him.

This is not about being selfless.

This is a whole lot more primal.

That instinctive/survival part of a man’s brain is going to decide you are not to be trusted, and may not be the partner for him.

He will know that if you can’t say no to him or stand up to him, then you are not going to be able to protect his children, or be able to say no to other men, or to other threats.

If you don’t put yourself first and value yourself more than you value him, then you won’t be strong enough in his mind to survive the obstacles in life.

All that fussing might be what we women want, but its not what a man wants.

He may dislike the challenge of being stood up to, but he will know you value yourself enough to say no in the face of adversity.

He will know you believe in yourself enough to back yourself up.

He can relax knowing you have confidence in yourself.

So unless you really feel like getting him that cup of tea, don’t do it, ask him to get you one lol

Ive been listening to some wonderful speakers on Suzanne Falter-Barns Spiritual Marketing telesummit.

I always like to pass on great information and one of the speakers, Darius Barazandeh, was awesome. He did a wee process that took only a few minutes and it felt like it was a huge piece of a healing process for me. What a gift!!!

Here’s the gist of what he was saying.

The Universe has an order to it.

Everything that has happened to you has happened for a reason. There’s a higher order to our lives.

We are way more than our conscious minds are aware of.

In our lives we pay people to take chaos and turn it into order.

Pain is not due to what happened, but its due to our estimate of it being out of alignment with our soul values.

The process he took us through was as follows:

Take a memory of something in your life that has pain. Perhaps not a horribly deep pain at this stage. Now think positively about it. Now think about your response and how you feel in your body.

Think about what you value in life: ie, your family, your kids, your friends, your work.

Now take that negative memory and align it with your values.

What did it teach you?
How has it made you stronger?
How has it made you more aware?
Would you have the same values had this not happened?
Would you be as open?
Woud you be as heartfelt?
How did that situation prepare you for a greater role in life? On the planet?
Look at this memory as if it was 10 years on and see the order to it.
How do you feel now?
What do you feel in your heart?

When I did this exercise I took the memory of having an abortion 7.5 years ago. My life was hellish because of it. So much self punishment, guilt, depression.

But…..

When I did this exercise, the relief I felt when seeing this in a positive light was like nothing I’ve felt around this painful bunch of memories.
Its taken me on such a journey. I am such a different person now than I was before it. The soul journey I have been on and the places and information and new level of awareness has been profoundly life changing. I wouldn’t be doing readings now if it wasn’t for that. It gave me my vocation.
Its all too easy to be stuck in knowing a situation has caused you pain, I think abortion, its just normal for me to go to guilt etc. But seeing it in the right divine order and through a positive filter has really altered my feelings.
Thanks Darius, the gift of healing can come with so much surprise and wonderment.

My Uncle passed away a few weeks ago. And his wife, my Aunt, 3 months ago. My Aunt and I corresponded and shared an interest in genealogy. My generation wasn’t loaded with people. Nor the one before me. But the generations before that were massive. Lots of rellies.

So my cousin has handed me on all of my Aunts genealogy folders. I received them earlier this week and was transfixed looking through the detail at what she had collected. Way more than I knew she had.

My Aunt was my father’s sister. One parent died before I was born and the other only a few years later. My father was in his early 20s when this happened.

My mother’s side had little to do with one another. So for me I felt like I didn’t have alot of family around me. It was always really weird to hear something about anyone in the family. I was just not used to being *in* a family in that respect.

It was extremely emotional for me to see pictures of my grandmother and great grandparents and my great great grandparents in the box of goodies I received from my Aunt. Im sensitive anyway, but there was this huge pull in my blood and bones. I’m sure alot of you know what I’m talking about, that’s why genealogy is so popular.

My grandmother’s side came from Italy. I always felt this side calling to me. I never knew why. I felt the Irish ancestry calling me too and the American. Less so the Scottish which is actually closer by a generation, and even less so the English.

No one knew when I first stated researching where my great great grandfather came from in Italy but I just knew in my bones it was northern Italy. I could just feel it.

Sure Im a psychic/medium but this is a different feeling to anything I get for my clients. I dont receive information that deep for my clients, like it was in my dna.

So I asked on facebook if people thought we had a cellular memory of our ancestors. All were in agreement, most people said they felt an affinity with a place or country.

But what about an affinity with a person. Take my grandmother who I had never met. I have always felt an affinity with her. She died when mum was pregnant with me.

And I’ve always felt an affinity with my Mothers Mother’s Mother. We actually share the same middle name (not that I knew that until I started genealogy) and we shared the same birthday. 101 years later.

So it got me to thinking, what about if some of the feelings I have, are actually my ancestors feelings?

I found a letter from my Aunt addressed to me, which she never sent to me, but sent a watered down version. When there’s no stories handed down about people then anything anyone says about a family member is like gold. She told me about how my Grandmother must have kicked my Grandfather out in the 1950s and he went to court to petition to get his conjugal rights reinstated. I had to find out what that meant. For a few days I felt like I was reliving her emotional life, what she must have gone though. And I asked myself why? Why are these feelings and thoughts coming to me.

That night I had a dream that someone was lifing a whole person out of me. And I woke up feeling more like myself.

Sure, I probably was tuning in mediumship wise. But it didn’t feel all of that. I didn’t feel I was tapping into the collective consciousness and having a typically feminine experience the world over.

I felt this in my bones. This story felt like something I had known and in part relived.

So it got me thinking and doing a bit of research. Does it not stand to reason that because our dna is made up of each one of our parents, and in turn theirs before them, that not only do we look like our ancestors, and have health issues passed down in our genes. that we might also have a dna memory of the lives they lived?

Because there was little contact and not alot of talking in my family, I just wasn’t handed down stories. So how can I feel the past now in my bones? When it wasn’t my life lived. But I seem to know some of what went on?

It doesn’t feel like a voyeuristic look into their lives, it feels more than wanting to make sense of their lives so I can make sense of mine. It feels like I’m having memories.

What do you think?

Are you always standing trial on the inside?

There’s the judge, the jury, the prosecution, and your defence is either weak or non existant?

I had an ephiphany last night. I’m taking the May Challenge in the One Command email group. To go up into theta and focus on what’s right with me, not what’s wrong. We can always look for what’s wrong, we’re doing it unconsciously all the time. And we find evidence in our lives to prove it.

What I came to realise is that I have this inner court room. The judge and jury. Every situation, person, MYSELF THE MOST, is up in front of the judge every moment of every day, being accused of doing wrong.

Every moment the prosecution wins and theres a voice of punishment. Of course so subtle now that I don’t even hear bit but boy do I feel it.

I realised I can’t just retire the jury and say it’s a mistrial because another court room is established in a second. And the judge loves her job and the esteem and authority and doesn’t want to retire. I realised that the voice of the defence was really quiet. The voice of defence for myself and for all the people I judge.

It’s hugely enlightening to look through the eyes of the defence in every moment than the prosecution. The defence is heart centred. The defence is humane. The defence is freeing, allowing, isn’t perfectionistic.

You try it. Who stands on trial for you? What are you accusing them of that you retry them again and again on the inside. With only a guilty verdict allowed.

Who is getting off scott free and you only wish they could suffer a little then you would be happy. Who should admit their guilt?

Defend them, what have they done right? What human part of them might have acted the way they did? Defend them. Say it out loud or write it down. Really get into the energy of the defence.

Can you feel how freeing that is?

I am a highly sensitive person and it’s been the bane of my life. Sure it has it’s upside, I use it in my job as a psychic, but on the whole the way my brain is wired to take in stimuli can be very overwhelming.

Highly Sensitive Person’s (HSP) brains are wired differenty. Its inherited. There are alot of characteristics to it ie:

Feel anxious and overwhelmed in crowds.

Noise and smells have a powerful effect. Loud or constant noise.

Really aware of other peoples moods.

Bright lights affect you.

Frazzled when too much to do in a short space of time.

Startle easily

Violent movies are very intense.

Music is very moving.

Easily overwhelmed.

Every highly sensitive person I know has tried a myriad of things to help themselves. We require alot of Alone time to recharge. Some days it feels like we dont have any skin, as if the world has encroached too far into us.

I’m also sensitive at night, I wear an eye mask and earplugs to stop the sensory input. Otherwise is someone walks past my bedroom at night I feel it on my skin, like a wave of energy washing over me, enough to wake me up.

Going into Malls I have found that if I listen to an ipod with quiet music on then it cuts out alot of the outside stimuation.

Ultra violet lights in supermarkets are terrible, they make me feel like the ground is moving.

Something I also work quite alot on is wherever I go I consciously close down my navel chakra, i just see it as an eye closing. I also visualise a cloak around wrap it around me. Shutting myself down is something I dont feel I’ve mastered at all.

As an empath its very easy for me to be *in* someone else’s experience. In fact I often see life from someone else’s point of view and not my own because I see their point of view and their reasoning so easily. But I have to keep reminding myself that I end up at a standstill in my life doing this all the time because I lose my own perspective.

Something I often do is bring myself back to myself. It takes a split second for me to zoom into someone elses space with my consciousness, and I have to practice not doing this. It’s very easy to take on other peoples depression or anxiousness doing this. And most of the time I dont know its not my feelings because I am in someeone elses consciousness so easily. One way to check for this is to work out what you were feeling before you came into contact with someone else and to see if you had a drastic change of mood with being in contact with them. Then walk away and break engaging with them for a few minutes and see if your mood changes. Chances are if it does then youre picking up their underlying mood.

HSP feel like they are an emotional sponge, soaking up whatever is around them. And at the same time feel like a colander with their own energy. It doesn’t take much to drain us at all.

I have to withdraw alot to recharge myself, and there is a tendancy to isolate doing this, because it takes so much energy to be engaged with people.

So are you an energetic sponge?

I’m reading an awesome book at the moment called The Happiness Trap by Dr Russ Harris, its mainly about ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy)

I wanted to talk about what he describes as Cognitive Fusion and Cognitive Defusion.

As Dr Harris describes it, ‘Cognitive fusion means that the thought and the thing it refers to – the story and the event – become blended. Thus, we react to words about a lemon as if a lemon is actually present; we react to words in a crime novel as if someone really is about to be murdered; we react to words like “Im useless” as if we actually are useless…….’

Research tells us that 80% of our thoughts are mostly negative.

We have alot of stories we tell ourselves chattering in our head all day, we have memories, fantasies, whats wrong, whats happening, what could happen, like a radio blaring in our heads all day.

With Cognitive Fusion we believe those thoughts as if they were fact.

The aim of Cognitive Defusion is to tell ourselves that alot of our thoughts are just mind chatter, not important and the trick is to only put energy into thoughts that hep us. Defusion tells us that thoughts can be unimportant, are just words, dont have any power, are not commands to be obeyed etc. Kind of like just having alot of junk in the attic.

One way to do this is to identify the story we are telling ourselves and say ‘Im having the thought that……..’ Im dumb, Im too fat, they hate me etc. Or saying ‘Oh theres that story I tell myself of……’ being a victim, he doesn’t love me, I won’t succeed etc. It defuses the thought instead of fusing with it or fighting it. It takes one step back and it loses its power so you can think what you really want to think.

What I’ve always struggled with, with other techniques is that being a psychic I rely on my thoughts and images in my head, and for me to say that alot of what im thinking is garbage could make me doubt my abilities. But I realised that with Cognitive Defusion its my choice about what I take notice of, afterall Im taking notice of what’s helpful. I tend to use this method when I catch myself with my usual self defeating thoughts that affect my behaviour.

So give it a go, see the change in energy and how your body relaxes after just one application.

What thought are you having?

I wanted to share a story from my life that embodied for me that the Universe has my back.

15 months ago my ex partner of 10 years told me out of the blue he was leaving me. Of course now I see that was all perfect but at the time I was devastated, he was the love of my life, but obviously I wasn’t for him.

Anyway, after having been in some kind of relationship for 25 years I was in shock about how I was going to survive on my own. I had spent most of my time raising our kids, and supporting my partners in their jobs. The way I had been raised. Make someone else’s life run smoother. Sounds simplistic but whatever I wanted to do professionally always felt like some little hobby I had.

He didn’t leave for 3 months which was hugely challenging, but not long before he left, an old friend out of the blue emailed me to tell me he had won first division in lotto, 1 million dollars, and wanted to show his gratitude to me for how he felt I had been a friend to him over the years, and asked me to let him know whatever I wanted.

Needless to say I cried for days about that. He saw me right to get up on my feet and was there just when I needed some kind of stability.

Whenever I’m scared and worried about how I’m going to manage, I remember how Rob was there when I needed an anchor.

Thanks Rob Browning

How have you experienced the Universe having your back?